FML Thread

[Warchild]

I watched a video that had numerous specialists a while back that all basically said the same thing, The real issue isn't current population numbers but rather every single countries rampant corruption and mismanagement.

We have so many people in important positions and positions of power in pretty much all countries who have no idea what to do but got to these positions because they went to the right school or have the right type of handshake, Until that is addressed it's not going to change.

I think population is a heavy factor too. All emergency services are imploding under strain. Not enough police to canvas areas that are ever expanding, not enough beds in hospitals for the increasing long living elderly, not enough teachers for schools.

Population booms making employment difficult, so more on benefits that are taxing an already poor system understrain. Thousands are on benefits who will happily sacrifice "free money" for a job, but they simply cant get one. And I am referring to the world over, not just the UK.

Yes governments are full of corruption. But all the problems above need money to fix, and to inject more cash into the NHS, it has to be pulled from somewhere. Easy fix is to raise taxes or costs for NHS treatment, but no one can afford that if they arent working. Why arent they working? well most like because they cant find a job due to too many people... population of London alone is a clear sign. There is over 68 Million people in 2024 living in UK alone vs just over 5million in Norway. Doesnt take much to see the issue. And funnily.. Norway is actually a larger country if you look at just square km.

 

[Dawelio]

There is over 68 Million people in 2024 living in UK alone vs just over 5million in Norway. Doesnt take much to see the issue. And funnily.. Norway is actually a larger country if you look at just square km.

Yeah, even Sweden just surpassed 10 million last year and are about the same size as our neighbour Norway.

 

[Damien c]

I think I am close to having a complete mental breakdown so a bit of a rant/getting things of my chest so of thing!

Absolutely fed up with a lot of stuff that is going on at the moment that is just mentally draining and it's having physical implications that are causing problems at work.

Illness cost me my job at Virgin Media about 10 years ago, the loss of that job has resulted in medication being needed each day, the side effects from the medication is causing issues with my current job as it did with my previous job.

At the moment I am being monitored for my attendance in the office because the upper management have got a "Hard on" for making people attend the office in the name of "Collaboration" but it's nothing more than a "Tick Box Exercise" because they have a long lease on the building and "we will be damned if we are not going to use it".

My lack of attendance is due to the side effects of the medication that I have got to take, it's either take the medication or be in a lot of pain each day chewing on a pack of indigestion tablets each day and vomiting each day, or take the tablets and possibly have diarrhea every couple of days and foul smelling wind (both ends).

This has triggered the upper management to complain to my manager apparently about my lack of attendance, so HR are now involved and have been for the last 3 months.

I have changed my medication, which has helped a little but not a lot and introduced an additional side effect of "Breast Growth" but "very small growth" nothing to worry about at the moment.

Discussed it with my manager and HR and told them, I am not happy with the new tablets but they don't care, they are only interested in me attending the office 2 days a week so they can tick a box.

So time to be a puppet and just take the new tablets because I cannot afford to be unemployed.


Add on to that, for the last year I have had worry on my shoulders because my dad has had Bladder Cancer and been receiving treatment which has worked, he is now "Cancer Free" but still has to have a camera every 3 months, and is currently being checked for Prostate Cancer and something else because the doctors are "Curious" about something??? but my dad won't tell me so yeah, that is weighing on me.


Then I am currently and for the last 2 years looking after my grandad who has been house bound for the last 18 months, is now practically bed bound, has a catheter fitted, cannot cook for himself, cannot bathe himself, cannot shop, do the washing, clean his house etc basically if he didn't have me he would be dead.

This is my day 7 days a week, the only difference is I don't work on a weekend.

6:30am wake up, 7am go to my grandads house, wake him up, give him his painkillers, make him a cup of tea, wash him if he can manage it, help him to his chair where he sits all day watching youtube and the bbc news on his tv, change his bedding, then back to my parents house to login to work, work till 9am back round to my grandads house with my mum, give him his medication, make his breakfast, hover up, put his washing machine on, empty his catheter bag again, back to work, midday, back round to my grandads house with my mum, make his lunch, make him a cup of tea, back to work, then at 3pm back round to my grandads house, check on him and make sure he is alright and do anything he needs, back to work, 3:30pm finish work and start to "relax" until 5pm, back round to my grandads house with my mum, give him his evening meal, cup of tea and anything else, back "home", back to playing some games whilst making some youtube videos, 7pm get of my pc and have something to eat myself, 9pm round to my grandads, give him his painkillers for the night, night medication, depending on blood sugar give him something to eat and then put him to bed, then I go home and 10pm I get in bed, rinse and repeat for the rest of the week.

He needs me to move in with him, but I cannot afford to do it, I have been frankly screwed over my 2 family members who during covid almost lost their houses putting themselves and their kids out on the street, I had to bail them out, they are family and kids are involved, I don't have kids, so 2 loans were obtained, handed over to family members both of which are not paying for them, I am paying for them because they cannot afford to.

My grandad has paid rent on his house since the 1970's, I don't know the exact year but we have some rent cards from I think 1972! he was refused to buy it when he was working, now he can buy and he cannot afford to, I cannot get a mortgage or a loan thanks to my family screwing me over, I don't earn enough from YouTube, I get about £60 every 4 months!

If I move in with him and the Council find out, he and me will be kicked out, which is what they want, they want the house back as they are actively messing with his rent, my brothers wife is constantly on the phone to them because of it as they are trying to put him in arrears so they can kick him out.

I cannot go on the "Rental Agreement" because I cannot afford the rent as my grandad would lose everything, the DWP have already said he cannot have anyone live with him, so I am scared to death I am going to find him on the floor again one morning when I go round.

So I am now in the position of trying to find £50k from somewhere to save his house, to buy it to give him peace of mind for the remaining time he has left, to let him not feel like a failure which he keeps calling himself, which then makes me feel like a failure because I cannot help him anymore than I already am, the Council and Government won't help, have emailed my former MP, the PM and my current MP none of which have bothered to respond, not that I was expecting them to.

I have also had to get 2 LPA's (lasting power of attorney) for him, because he wants me to deal with everything and some of the family believe it should be his eldest daughter, but my grandad is very old fashioned and basically said "I don't have a son of my own, so my eldest grandson is who has to do it" which is me, so I have family members trying to argue with me over who get's what, but it's all in his will and if they keep up, then no one gets anything because he said if people fight and argue over it, at a certain point either myself or him will decide enough is enough and it all gets donated to charity (by all I mean less than £5k) he doesn't have a lot, so they are all going to get nothing if they carry on.


With all of that on weighing on me, from looking after my dad, my mum, my grandad, my own health and work issues, I have found out today that where my dad works there is going to be people being let go, my dad is basically at retirement age, my parents have told me they have been stupid with a "Loan" they got years ago that I didn't know about and basically if my dad loses his job they have said "You need to pay it otherwise they take the house".

So yeah I am completely fed up and just cannot be bothered with a lot of stuff at the moment, gaming and going for a drive at a night used to make me happy, it was that thing for me, but given the price of fuel etc I just can't at the moment which is making me feel worthless and useless.

Now I am waiting to see how much Labour make my life worse when the budget happens.

 

[Dicehunter]

We need to get some of the lads together for a gaming night, that way you can vent while gaming, venting is amazing for lowering stress, makes you feel a lot better.

 

[Damien c]

Why can nothing go right at the moment

So I have my gaming pc, a pc I use for Discord, OBS and Shotcut (video software) and then my Unraid Server (NAS, Plex etc).

For months I have had an issue with my "Discord PC", slow app loading when Windows boots, random lockups, random crashes, reboots, BSOD's with nothing other than "System Thread" or something similar, never really looked into it much, since I didn't want to open a can of worms (oh boy).

Recently I got Windows 11 Enterprise because I am not interested in a lot of the stuff Microsoft is trying to force down users throats, also the constant attempts to remove "Local Accounts" is a big annoyance of mine, I do not want to use a Microsoft ad account, they have enough of my information to sell without me giving them even more by using a stupidly unnecessary thing like a Microsoft account to login to Windows.

Anyway, I installed Windows 11 Enterprise and started having real problems right from the start, in trying to actually install Windows, I was getting failures etc, it took over 13 attempts the first time to get Windows to install, but eventually through sheer stubbornness it went on the drive and I started using it, first 24 hours were fine, then it started, eventually the system wouldn't boot.

I decided it "had to be" the NVME drive, it's a Lexar drive which gave me no ends of trouble when I bought it, trying to get it to work in a motherboard, anyway, I replaced it with a WD Blue 1TB drive, it's on the QVL like the Lexar, it's a more well known brand so should be grand, nope similar issues in trying to get Windows installed, once Windows was installed the machine started having all the same issues, so stupid me say's "It must be the NVME" so I ordered yet another 1TB NVME this time a Crucial P3 which I have in my laptop, works fine in there so figured there won't be an issue in this PC.

Windows 11 Enterprise is a pain again, so decides "F It" going to Windows 11 Pro, which install's no problem, 3 minutes and it was installed, goes through the whole annoying process of the Shift F10, oobe\bypassnro etc, get's a Local Account up and running, install's the GPU Drivers etc etc, this machine also is one I use for my 2nd Destiny 2 account when I want to checkpoint swap etc, I mean it's a half decent gaming pc with a 5700x and a 4060 in it.

Everything was running fine, sets Destiny 2 installing and it get's to the end of the install, "Corrupt Install Files" or something like that, so I tell it to Verify, it goes through, "Missing files" downloads them, says it's fine, so I try to launch the game, nope won't launch corrupted files.

I just think "FFS what now!", so I decides to run the Windows Memory Diagnostic tool, it hadn't even finished changing to 2% before it flashed up with errors, I just slammed my head against the table and said "F It, I am done with this", on to Amazon new ram ordered and new CPU Cooler (because this deepcool one with PBO enabled rattles so PBO is off).


Now if you think that is the end of the issues oh no you are wrong!!

So my gaming machine, the one with the 7900X3D and the 4080 Super, it looks like none of the USB-C ports want to work at anything above 40MBp/s, I have multiple NVME Enclosures all of which work fine in dads pc, which is my old 5950x and 3080Ti system, full speed no problem when connected via USB-C, connect them to my pc and if they are seen they run at 40MBp/s max or they don't get seen at all, put them on a USB-A to USB-C cable that came with the enclosures and they run at 400+MBp/s, so now I need to try and figure out what is going on there.


Then my Unraid server, when watching stuff from Plex my brother and my dad decided a couple of days ago to drop the bombshell that they have barely been able to watch anything because it keeps saying the server is not fast enough, I replied with "BS it ain't fast enough!", so I does some digging and FML, Supermicro have wired the motherboard in a proper stupid way!

It's a dual CPU board, each CPU has 40 PCI-E Lanes, the board has 2x Full Length 16x Slots and 4x 8x Slots, and in Supermicros infinite wisdom, all the slots are wired to CPU-2 except for 2x 8x slots, I mean "WTF Supermicro!", so none of the add in cards are on CPU-1 because of the layout, of the slots and the cards having coolers etc on them for the NVME drives meaning they are all on CPU-2.

So the Quadro P2000 is struggling, so is the HBA and so are all the NVME Drives.

Now I was already in the process of working on upgrades for it, I had managed to snag a Epyc 7551p with a motherboard, CPU, Cooler and PCI-E NVME Card (4x NVME Drives) for just over £400.

The issue was it was/is coming from China, so the board, cpu and ram turned up today, a cooler I ordered from China is still in China and has been delayed, won't be here till the end of the money so that is now a "spare" as I ordered a cooler from Scan which turned up today.

The PCI-E card is still in China won't be here apparently till next week according to Evri instead of Monday which was quoted originally, so I ordered one from Amazon this morning which arrived this afternoon, all in the hope that tomorrow I was able to deal with the server, but no I am going to be spending the day messing around with my Discord PC and trying to figure out what is wrong with the USB-C ports on my main pc, then once that is sorted I can start looking at my server.

Hopefully once the Epyc CPU is installed, everything will get it's full amount of PCI-E lanes so should work better and not be fighting each other for lanes, as the next thing that I do not want to buy is a replacement for the P2000 but if I do then there goes £300 or there abouts on a A2000.


So yes me and computers, me and everything at the moment are not on speaking terms, I am off work tomorrow with it being a Sunday, in work Monday and then off Tuesday as my grandad has a "Gas Safety Inspection" which after the last one, I am not leaving them in the house with him on his own, and then I am in work till Saturday, hopefully the Gas inspection is early on Tuesday so I can deal with the server on Tuesday unless Amazon decides to turn up stupidly early tomorrow (doubt it) and I can get my Discord machine sorted quickly, although I might just strip it first thing ready for when the delivery does turn up, and work on the server in the mean time

 

[Damien c]

Lets add another bit of stupidity on my part in to the mix

I ordered new ram for the PC that I use Discord etc on, when I have a full pc sat in a box not being used currently with 32Gb Corsair 3600Mhz DDR4 ram in it.

Just pulled it and installed it in my Discord etc PC, reinstalled Windows with 0 issues, now to try other stuff and see what happens.