That is why I am here to help. I am by no means an expert, especially compared to others here, but I can help guide you. Seems to me you are in a little over your head so here is my suggestion to you.
Go for an AIO, or All In One, cooling soltution. Its a closed watercooling loop that is self contained. It will be better than air but not as good as a true watercooled loop. It has many benefits and to me it seems like this would fit you perfectly.
Check out the Corsair H100i or NZXT X60 Kraken. Both are the top two available. Also a Swifttech H220 would be better but they are not sold in the US anymore due to legal issues but may be able to be found on Ebay or from Canada.