I've lost count of how many of these type of posts/complaints I've read about PayPal. I believe their HQ is in Ireland, and trying to discuss your problems with them is a non starter.
I never ever deal with anyone who prefers PayPal, so Ebay is a nono for me, specially since I've been ripped off 3 times.
If they ask for PayPal, I offer an alternative, a check or COD. If they refuse I say "Your choice, and go elsewhere."