Spanking/Smacking Children?

[mVp24]

So guys here is the question: Do you think spanking/hitting (not hella hard to cause bruises or any long lasting pain) is good for kids to get?

I'm not talking about like just at random times. I mean like, you tell your kid not to do something like 10 times and they keep doing it, do you think a little slap/spank is good for them and discipline? Once again I'm not talking about abuse, just a medium hit, like you know if someone slaps your hand? That type of pain.

I think it's good for kids. If they don't follow something you say, there should be consequences. Tbh, timeouts etc. aren't that good and effective imo.

When I was little I'd occasionally get disciplines ( a little slap or so) when I didn't listen repetadely, and it did me good. Life is painful, every wrong action has a consequence and I think that this type of discipline is not abad thing. My brother, me, and many of my friends that have been slapped/spanked before have all turned out fine and I am actually a really good kid now (I soo need to cut a frikken class )

Anyways, vote in the poll.

 

[Ares210]

I think its a good thing. When i was a kid I got spanked a few times, straightened me right up. It was the big thing, the threat they would use and sometimes i would get it but very rarely. Looking back it did me well.

 

[PV5150]

Smacking is used as a guidance tool in my household. But, it is done only under certain circumstances:

1) My children are always told what they have done prior to receiving their punishment (that way there is no mistaking what the punishment has been for, and prevents resentment towards the disciplining parent).

2) The child is always given the right to justify/explain their actions before they are smacked.

3) Felicity and I always try to discipline our children when we are not angry (because we are human it doesn't always happen).

4) Smacking is always done as a last resort. Other forms of punishment (timeout in their bedroom, deprivation of favourite toys and games etc) nearly always have just as much impact on curbing bad behaviour.

5) Discipline is always administered away from other people or brothers and sisters, to prevent feelings of ridicule and resentment.

 

[mVp24]

Smacking is used as a guidance tool in my household. But, it is done only under certain circumstances:

1) My children are always told what they have done prior to receiving their punishment (that way there is no mistaking what the punishment has been for, and prevents resentment towards the disciplining parent).

2) The child is always given the right to justify/explain their actions before they are smacked.

3) Felicity and I always try to discipline our children when we are not angry (because we are human it doesn't always happen).

4) Smacking is always done as a last resort. Other forms of punishment (timeout in their bedroom, deprivation of favourite toys and games etc) nearly always have just as much impact on curbing bad behaviour.

5) Discipline is always administered away from other people or brothers and sisters, to prevent feelings of ridicule and resentment.

Yea, that's how it is in my family too, except I don't really ever get hit anymore.

Mainly because I've learned what to do and what not to do lol

 

[FragTek]

I firmly believe in beating the everloving snot out of your children... Teach them respect in the manner that your parents would have, a leather belt to the arse.

 

[NickS]

I think its a good thing. When i was a kid I got spanked a few times, straightened me right up. It was the big thing, the threat they would use and sometimes i would get it but very rarely. Looking back it did me well.

+1

 

[Sticky Mick]

Yep.

As kids my brothers and sisters and I always got a "fourpenny one" as my mum used to call it. Kept us on the straight and narrow.

It's now becoming clear that todays softly softly approach isn't working.

I remember back in the early 80's when all this kicked off. Cleveland Council tore hundreds of families apart because of their overzelous reaction to child abuse. There's never been a dividing line between abuse and punisment.

 

[JN]

My daughter does get smacked when she's done something very wrong or has been verbally warned several times about something previously and the "naughty spot" hasn't worked.

Even then the smack is only light, not enough to leave a mark and always does the job.

I don't think i'd ever smack my daughter out in public tho - people are extremely critical of that

 

[FarFarAway]

I agree with it at the right time and pretty much like jim said

 

[Nagaru]

I think it is fine as long as it is following guidelines similar to what PV said.

 

[nathan]

about every person i know in my generation was smacked as a child. They all turned out "normal"

 

[Rastalovich]

Smack em. Won`t happen tho, the west is too pc, too femenist, too pink shirt wearing.

 

[llwyd]

I would never hit my own kids, I would hopefully know them well enough to punish them as effectively without hurting, I do think however that schools should be allowed to cane children, some of the little sh*tes in my old schools couldnt be disciplined, and in alot of cases only really understand violence.

That then raises the problem of parents not wanting their children being caned by someone else (which is fair enough) - no matter how insolent they are

 

[Rastalovich]

Llwyd, first point - mobo back plate and stuff!

2ndly, it`s why I`m a strong believer in smacking the parents.

 

[mrapoc]

I would never hit my own kids, I would hopefully know them well enough to punish them as effectively without hurting, I do think however that schools should be allowed to cane children, some of the little sh*tes in my old schools couldnt be disciplined, and in alot of cases only really understand violence.

That then raises the problem of parents not wanting their children being caned by someone else (which is fair enough) - no matter how insolent they are

I totally agree! If you yourself have been a good enough parent (dont ask me what!) you shouldnt have to smack them but then, those kids at school 70% will answer the teacher back and 30% will probably swear at them :nono:

 

[FragTek]

I'm gonna get a riding crop and mount it on the wall and just tell them thats what they can expect to be cracked on their backside if they F up.

 

[mrapoc]

LOLLLLLL

How about an electrified cattle prod?

 

[FragTek]

LOLLLLLL

How about an electrified cattle prod?

Electrified cattle prods are always good too

 

[JN]

I totally agree! If you yourself have been a good enough parent (dont ask me what!) you shouldnt have to smack them but then, those kids at school 70% will answer the teacher back and 30% will probably swear at them :nono:

I think any parent will tell you that no matter how well the child is raised they WILL misbehave on occasion. Telling a child off doesn't have to be about them misbehaving anyway. It could be something that they are doing that is unsafe, and you need to tell them in a way that they won't forget that they can't do it again (putting small objects in mouth etc).

I'd never smack my children to hurt them, it's the last thing I'd want to do. However, a light tap is more than enough to get the message across.