For the adapters you can find them easily by Googling molex to 3 pin adapter or 4 pin to 3 pin adapter. Just make sure you get the correct male/female connectors for your needs.
You might as well find a pump setting which suits your loop well and leave it at that, it's so much less hassle, the pump speed doesn't make a huge difference temperature wise, and it's potentially safer. If you are insistent upon doing it, you need to make sure that the channel on your fan controller can handle enough power with some extra for leeway because start-up current will probably be higher than running current. The D5 draws 2A at 12V = 24W, most fan controllers should handle this, but check. The operating voltage of a D5 is 8-24V, and most fan controllers probably go quite a bit below 8V, at which point you may not be supplying enough power for the pump to even turn on, so your loop will overheat quickly, and you probably won't even notice.
Do it at your own risk I'd say, I just leave mine at a fixed setting.