Well here we go...

kup · #1 09-12-10, 12:28 AM

Girlfriend says she needs time by herself to think. Leaves happy and loved up, kisses and hugs and all that jazz. Instantly cold from the next day. The next few days she lies continuously about her whereabouts and today she tried to trick me into meeting her tomorrow so she can end it. She used the false promise of wanting me to come to the docs with her to get a complication of the abortion sorted.

I asked if this was a bad meeting (already suspecting her motives), a "we're breaking up" kind of meeting, and she ignored me for two hours and turned her phone off. Not happy with this lack of respect I walked to hers only to find that at past 1am in the morning, after saying she was at home (and with work at 7am), she is not. No car, no girlfriend.

I have suspected that this was nearing and I'm very much of the opinion that there is another fella involved. Now do I meet her anyway and just take the break up or do I not let her treat me with such disrespect (the trying to trick me about meeting at the docs) and let her come to me to do the break up?

hmmblah · #2 09-12-10, 12:34 AM

If you know 100% that's what she plans to, I know I sure as hell wouldn't go. Then again, it's better than breaking it off over the phone or facebook or something. I'm surprised she wouldn't just do that if she were going to do the breakup.

Damn dude, really just go meet her. Either way you're breaking up I guess. Might as well make her be the bad guy instead of yourself. At least you can hold your head high and she comes out looking like a mess. If there really is another fella in the mix, he needs to wake up and deserves a good ass kicking.

kup · #3 09-12-10, 12:41 AM

Oh don't worry about that, I'll find out who it is and I'll stomp his face into the curb.

thestepster · #4 09-12-10, 12:55 AM

no i dont think he needs a kick in the ass he might not know, i was like that with my lass!

i say like i did on msn beat the unnecessary language removed to it, then personally cause i can be a vindictive and impulsive mofo hump her friends/family

AMDFTW · #5 09-12-10, 06:10 AM

unnecessary mate really??

IMO be the man and u break it off,and say look you are insane and i dont want to be withsome one who treats me like this.

AlienALX · #6 09-12-10, 08:17 AM

Women - snakes with tits.

That is all.

Mr Muggles · #7 09-12-10, 09:50 AM

If people don't appreciate/value you being in their lives anymore then simply leave it at that. As ALX said "snakes with tits" and once a woman has changed her mind about you, there's no turning back i'm afraid, it's like an on off switch in their heads.

You're just going to have to work through the feelings of reject etc like we all have at some point, it will be rough as it sounds like your feelings for her hadn't changed.

all the best

BloomerzUK · #8 09-12-10, 09:59 AM

Man, I feel for you. I have gone through a similar experience and it just makes you feel like a piece of **** on someones shoe. Horrible feeling.

I am currently in a relationship at the moment, and it's going okay, but I keep saying the wrong things at the wrong times.

She can joke around with me and I don't take offence, I find it funny.. we have a giggle.. but when I try to joke with her.. BANG, that hurt my feelings, goes of MSN, doesn't say bye etc etc. Proper head doer. Nothing compared to your situation at the moment, it's good to vent stuff out,

lasher · #9 09-12-10, 10:35 AM

Guys Language please!

Dont have me trawling these flaming forums looking for language that really isn't necessary please.

kup · #10 09-12-10, 09:31 PM

Went for a nice meal, had a nice night.

Got home, she txt me, ending it.